‘I Was Told I Was Infertile and Was Terrified I Would Never Have a Baby’ was what one of my lovely clients said to me. I asked her if she would mind sharing her story on my site so she insisted on writing it out for me-
‘My name is Suzanne and I am 42 years old. Brian and I were married 10 years ago and decided to start trying to conceive straight away. We had friends that had IVF so we didn’t want to waste any time. I always wanted 4 children, I don’t know why but that’s the number I had my mind set on.
When we came back from our honeymoon I found out that I was pregnant- we couldn’t believe it. We were SO happy- we told everyone straight away. Everything was going fine, I was quite sick and very tired but that’s what I expected. We went for our 12 week ‘dating scan’ in the hospital, we were so excited to be going to see our baby. The lady doing the scan was so chatty but as soon as she located the baby in my belly she went so quiet- then said she needed to get the doctor. I don’t remember much more but we were told our baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks and had died. We were given several options and ended up taking some tablets home to help to ‘expel the foetus’. I took several days of painful cramping and emotional heartache to complete the task of my baby leaving my womb. I never thought I could feel such pain- I was in shock for days. How could my baby be dead?
I eventually came to terms with the miscarriage. As it turned out lots of women I knew had been through a similar thing and they all said I just needed to get pregnant again and I would be fine. We started trying again 2 months later and expected it to happen very quickly. My cycle was a bit different after the miscarriage- I had always been every 4 weeks to the day. Then it was 30 days, 33 days and even 40 days on month. I got symptoms every month like I was pregnant, feeling a bit sick, sore breasts and tiredness. I spent a fortune on pregnancy tests, they were all negative. I even went to the doctor saying the tests had to be wrong and asking for a blood test to tell me I was pregnant. She wanted to send me to a psychologist as she was worried I wasn’t coping after the miscarriage. I refused to go, I just needed to be pregnant again. Our first wedding anniversary passed and I still wasn’t pregnant. I went back to my doctor and asked what was wrong. She said we probably just needed more time but agreed to refer us to a fertility clinic.
It took 3 long months to have our appointment. We had to do lots of blood tests. Brian did his semen analysis sample. I had an ultrasound. I had a laparoscopy. All normal. We were told we had ‘unexplained infertility’. We were booked in to start IUI treatment next cycle. The usual course of treatment was 3 cycles of IUI and then IVF.
We had very mixed feelings about undergoing the treatments. We desperately wanted to conceive again but it all seemed so clinical. Brian had recognised one of the other men in the waiting room and felt very awkward about it.
We decided to go with the IUI. I took the medication that I was prescribed and went for the scan to show how my follicles were developing. They said there was a problem- a large cyst had developed on my left ovary. They had to stop the treatment and we could try again next cycle. I was very upset but we just had to get on with it. The next cycle went fine but I didn’t get pregnant. And it was the same with the next cycle. The doctor spoke to us and said we should go straight into a full IVF cycle and said something about my ovaries looking a bit tired. I was only 34- how could there be anything wrong with my ovaries?
So we started the IVF. I didn’t feel great on the medication, I was very emotional. I went for the routine scan before egg collection and to my horror there was another big cyst on my left ovary and the treatment was stopped. We were told we could start again in a few weeks but the same thing happened. They said to take a break for a while- but not too long as I was at risk of going into menopause soon. I cried for 2 weeks. I am a primary school teacher and the children kept asking me why my eyes were red. One child told me I looked like his goldfish with big eyes.
We knew we were not ready to give up but the thought of more fertility treatment was torturous. Then a friend of a friend told me about a lady called Sarah Leather who helped people with fertility problems and had great success. I was very skeptical- if a fertility doctor couldn’t help how could something natural help? Brian said it was worth a try and that I should at least give her a call. The only problem was that she lived 8 hours drive away but I rang anyway. I was delighted that she seemed quite positive and said she had several similar cases who had done well. She gave me several treatment options and I decided to go with the online questionnaire with a phone call afterwards to tie it all together.
It was all done in a few days and I received my treatment program in the post, I had also received several diet sheets via email after our chat on the phone. We both had homeopathic remedies to take straight away and I had remedies to take on certain days of my cycle. Sarah felt that my cycle needed rebalancing as it had never been normal since the miscarriage. We had quite a big list of changes we had to make with our diet and lifestyle but it all made sense. The doctors had said that none of that made any difference to our fertility but as Sarah said- what we were doing wasn’t working so we needed to do things differently. She said she couldn’t promise that we would get pregnant but that she could guarantee we would get much healthier. We also had to take some supplements besides the folic acid. I was to have a follow up consultation in 2 months time and I was to email Sarah every 2 weeks with updates.
We both initially felt a bit tired but then felt much better within a couple of weeks. We both had more energy an I felt especially well emotionally- probably better than I had felt since before being pregnant. My menstrual cycle changed quickly too- much more regular and far more healthy- probably the way it was in my 20’s before I got married. My PMS symptoms went as well. I also noticed my ovulation time was far more obvious. Sarah had also given me information on timing for conception which was very useful.
We decided to wait until I had my follow up consult with Sarah before making a decision about another IVF cycle. Sarah had said it was important that we were both as healthy as possible no matter what we decided to do.
When I spoke to Sarah again I was on Day 30 of my cycle which I commented was strange because the last 2 (since I had begun treatment with her) had been 28 days. Sarah said maybe I should do a pregnancy test so that I could put it out of my mind if it was negative- I can’t believe that I hadn’t even thought of doing one. I was so sure I would need IVF to conceive and was hoping to get healthy enough to have a proper treatment cycle. I did the test the next morning ant it was positive! I was so shocked and so delighted. I then started to worry about another miscarriage so I emailed Sarah who put my mind at rest quite well. She also told me what to take, what to do and what not to do and advised me to make an appointment to see my doctor. She also advised having a scan at around 8 weeks to make sure everything was going to plan. And it was- the entire pregnancy went so well. I had some symptoms but I loved every minute of it.
Our beautiful baby girl was born just before my 35th birthday- my best present ever. When she turned one I decided to have another treatment with Sarah to make sure everything was well balanced before we conceived again. My cycle had become a bit irregular again but was soon fixed and our second daughter was conceived soon after that and was born on my 37th birthday! Baby number 3 took a little longer to come along and was born just before my 40th birthday- he was worth waiting for.
We had a chat then about our family and decided we had enough children and were so lucky to have them. But I always had the idea in my mind that we would have 4- so after a while I confessed my thoughts to Brian and all he said was ‘call Sarah’. So we went through everything again- quite a few bad habits had slipped back in. Sarah said we had to pay even more attention now to our diet, lifestyle and supplements as we were a little bit older.
So a week before my 42nd birthday our 4th child arrived and is a amazing addition to our family. I feel totally blessed, words can’t properly express the gratitude I feel towards Sarah and her work. She says all she does is to help our bodies to come back to a place of balance but when I look at my family I can’t help thinking that there is a little magic there as well.’
Thank you Suzanne for sharing your fantastic fertility journey.
From Infertility & Failed IVF to Fertility
I would to share with you an email I received in July 2010 from Sandra in Northern Ireland who did an Online Fertility Consultation.
‘Hi Sarah, just want to bring you up to date with my infertility problems. When I first contacted you for help after 2 failed cycles of IVF I really wasn’t sure if you could help but thought that anything to boost my fertility that didn’t do any harm would be worth a shot. I made all the changes you suggested and couldn’t believe how much better I felt straight away- never thought I would survive a day without coffee! My weight dropped 6 pounds in the first 3 weeks, I felt so bloated after all of the fertility treatment. You said to get back to you after 2 months or 2 menstrual cycles. You said that I should expect some changes due to the homeopathic remedies that you sent & you were right.
The first cycle was like it used to be years ago, it lasted a healthy 5 days instead of 1 or 2, and it came 28 days from the previous, instead of 35 or 40 days . It hasn’t been like that for years, ever since I stopped the pill 4 years ago. I felt human again! I then really noticed ovulation around day 12/13 of the next cycle and was looking forward to another healthy period and was a bit annoyed when it didn’t come on day 28. I was planning on starting my next cycle of IVF so was keen to get my period. On day 30 my husband asked if I had done a pregnancy test which I thought was mad. But I did one just to keep him happy- nearly fainted when I read the little box that said ‘2 -3 weeks pregnant’! We had NEVER had a positive test before in the 4 years that we had been trying. You said a healthy period was important but I never realised what a difference it would make to boost my fertility. When I was diagnosed as ‘infertile’ it was so finite, I really believed that I would never be pregnant without IVF. I love being wrong sometimes! John went to the chemist & bought 5 different pregnancy tests, they must have thought he was mad. All of the tests were positive, but we still went to our doctor to be told for sure that I am pregnant. Not sure I will ever get used to saying it. It’s still early days but our very biggest obstacle has been passed.
We can’t thank you enough- please pass this on to anyone who may be in a similar situation. All I can say is that you have nothing to lose and SO much to gain. Thanks again, Sandra & John
Preparing For IVF
I received a lovely email from Janet in March 2010 who lives in France & she is happy for me to share her story with you via the following testimonial. ’I came across Sarah from an article she had written and I just had a feeling that she could help. We had been trying to conceive for nearly 3 years and had just been to a fertility clinic and had been told the devastating news that at the age of 36 my ovaries were ‘old’ and that without IVF I would not get pregnant. So we were booked in for IVF 3 months later & I started looking for some help to prepare for it when I came across Sarah. I asked for her help which she agreed to & started treating me via email. I was very impressed with the comprehensive reply along with lots of dietary, lifestyle and fertility coaching advice. I made quite a few changes and started feeling healthier within a couple of weeks. The thing I really noticed was the changes to my menstrual cycle almost immediately & also felt like ovulation was far more obvious.
I felt very confident with starting IVF but got frustrated that my monthly cycle was late just when I had to start to take the fertility drugs to start the IVF. It was 4 days before it occurred to me to do a pregnancy test as I was so focused on waiting for my menstrual cycle to arrive so I could start the IVF drugs. I couldn’t believe the positive pregnancy test, I ended up doing 5 pregnancy tests over that day! I am now a very happy 13 week pregnant woman. I am delighted to see Sarah is now offering her Fertility Consults to more women online. I am so pleased I had her help.’
Please email me if you have any questions. I am limited to a few new Consults per week, at the moment they are available.
Please let me know if I can help you.
Sarah Leather ND, IS.Hom